(unless you want to further hurt victims and be a jerk, in which case, go right ahead) When a pastor/preacher/ministry leader is revealed to be a sexual predator, there is one response. ONE. It is a response of heartbreak and grief for the victims. It is a response of belief, of support, of appropriate systems for … Continue reading 10 Things NOT to Say When a Pastor is Revealed as a Sexual Predator
Mom guilt. I think all moms have it. I'm 11% Jewish so I think I have extra. There's the regular, garden-variety mom guilt: I wish I'd been more present . . . I wish I'd paid closer attention. I wish I'd emphasized health and nutrition and set a better example with, you know -- vegetables. … Continue reading In which I consider that my spawn are an essential part of the universe.
The Star-Telegram published an article earlier this month, "Hundreds of sex abuse allegations found in fundamental Baptist churches across U.S." by Sara Smith. Back in the day, when I had my heart set on pursuing investigative journalism, this is the article that I wanted to write. And this is why: "To understand how this systemic, … Continue reading The Truth Will Wreck This Place
I was raised in a pretty whackadoodle church. Okay, it was a cult. One of the (many) things drilled into our heads was that if we loved anyone or anything too much, God would be righteously jealous and take it away. As punishment. Also, another of the (many) things drilled into our heads was that … Continue reading I (Used To) Love to Write
Rachael Denhollander's former church released a statement to the Washington Post. Many will rejoice, and it seems that there are several good things that have happened. Maybe some progress is being made. But let's watch for the day when truth is enough. Let's watch for the day when there's enough humility and integrity to listen … Continue reading It’s a cold and it’s a broken hallelujah
Some days, I think I'm so jaded and cynical that absolutely nothing will surprise me. Today was not that day. This morning, my NPR news feed informed me that Paige Patterson had been replaced as president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, due to allegations of gross mishandling of situations of domestic violence and rape. … Continue reading Today, Even I Was (A Little) Surprised
"And that's . . . the REST of the story . . . " Remember Paul Harvey? He would tell us some remarkable story, and then he would tell us the REST of the story. The part we didn't know. The part that actually mattered most. I had a rest-of-the-story moment last week. Like everyone, … Continue reading Nassar, Denhollander, and the Rest of the Story